I think it’s fair to say, after 28 years of winging it that there’s something to be said for having a good plan.
In general it’s easy to admire people who create good plans, plans which they actually stick with. I’m talking solid plans, like the kind you write out on paper with a pen, pin to your walls/mirrors and reflect on everyday in a borderline obsessive fashion that makes your spouse go “what the heck are you into now?”. These plans can be anything from careers & business to having a baby, achieving some new level of personal fitness, creating a relationship, buying a house, cleaning out your closet, getting a car, buying real estate, maybe even a grand vision of our overall life plan, the key ingredient is that once the plan is created it is followed through with, in most cases, immediate action.
As an observer I’ve witnessed others perform the process of plan creation & execution and I’ve labeled it as some higher form of Magical Manifesting, while ignoring the very real follow-through that was put in day in & day out. At least in my own rare moments of successful plan making (& even rarer plan keeping) I’ve found it actually felt much more akin to follow-through.
Follow-through (according to Google) is defined as the continuing of an action or task to its conclusion. But that definition reveals very little about the true nature of follow through and what it actually feels like to be in the midst of a follow-through experience.Depending on where you are at emotionally in relation to what you want, you may feel a good degree more positive or negative. Either way how you feel right now is how you feel & it’s ok. It’s ok because you can choose to start wherever you are, no matter how you’re feeling but generally speaking the better you feel the easier it will go.
Follow-through can feel hard at first, in fact it can feel damn well overwhelming, thankless, boring, monotonous even unfulfilling at times. But it can also feel like a self-rewarding high. A positive feedback loop that sustains itself. And the more you put in the more you get back. It’s like pouring jet fuel on your passions & desires and serving it up with a honking side of delicious anticipation.
For the most part (in my own experience) follow-through flows easier and more habitually when I’m a ways into an experience, rather than at the beginning of that self appointed quest. But for those who choose to master the way’s of follow-through the benefits they receive are compounded with interest and more than a few “lucky breaks” to look forward to along the way.
It’s most fortunate that one of the common and very pleasant reported side effects of follow-through are the synchronistic breakthroughs we experience when we are in the flow of realizing our plan (& often with perfect timing). Heaven’s blessing, an Archangels hand on our shoulder, a Universal Conspiracy for your wellbeing, call it what you will but there is a force in the Universe that lines up with you just as you are lining up with it. A force that knows all & judges not but whose constant aim is to align you with what you want and your best & highest purpose.
Legend of the White Buffalo
There’s no question that people who keep their promises to themselves with consistancy are rare. I used to think maybe even white buffalo rare which is estimated to be approximately one out of every 10 million births. To be fair, I definitely haven’t counted myself in those numbers much over the years. But deep down I’ve always wanted to feel like the planner & creator of my own life and if you are resonating with some of this maybe that is what you want to feel like too.
My Follow-Through Story
Off the top of my head I can think of only maybe five times over the course of my whole life I’ve “stuck to it”. There was the time I lost 40lbs with the Purple Juice thing. The time I found out about Abraham-Hicks & the Law of Attraction. The time I leveled my Diablo III character to Paragon level 100 (well it was either 99 or 100, so I’m counting it). The time I went on a smoothie/juice and then later a candida cleanse. And in a way the time I moved to British Columbia late last Summer.
At the time of my move to BC I was thinking, I’m just going to wing it like I always do but in this case I confess I was sorely missing “a good plan”. Among other things. I was missing self-confidence, belief in myself and the acute awareness that I didn’t really have a solid clue as to where I would end up caused me to have a lot of anxiety & uncertainty in my situation. My perceived lack of stability made it a bit of a bumpy ride getting here too but even so, it was an improvement. Last spring/summer before I left Alberta I would have night-time sweats & panic attacks & waking up crying and shaking, but after I got settled into Ladysmith, BC in November, 2015, I focused myself into a much better mind, body & spirit place.
Even though I didn’t completely wing the move I didn’t completely plan it out either. However there was still two things going for me:
1) I had a subconscious plan. This was my saving grace because it had been my dream for a very long time and one that I had repeated over and over in my mind before I went to sleep.
2) I followed-through with action.
My dream (that I would repeatedly visualize before falling asleep) was to live in a log cabin house on the side of a mountain, with the love of my life over looking the ocean, to make a good living doing what I love & helping others, to work from home and to have a babe… To be honest this follow-through story is still in the making but it is one that is near and dear to my heart.
I don’t know how the Universe lined it up but the man I fell (madly) in love with & I live in the upper portion of a house in Ladysmith (the town is built on a Mountainside with inclines that could rival San Francisco, though the roads are no where near as long). Our home is overlooking an inlet of ocean water which I can see even now as I’m writing this post… But never mind that right now, because there is something that really struck a cord with me the other day & what I’m sure you are waiting for.
I would like to share with you what I learned from Follow-Through guru & Motivation Manifesto creator Brendon Burchard.
How to Follow-Through & Make Change Stick – in 5 simple steps:
In the morning 1st thing that you want to ask yourself is what is the change that I want? And Why do I want it? Now get a pen and a piece of paper & write both these answers down. Repeat this every single morning. Every. Single. Day.
Do it. Schedule it. Write it down. But make sure that you do it. You can put it into your reminders list on your iPhone but whatever you do: make it a priority & follow-through by taking action on it.
Brendon suggests here that you Measure yourself on a scale of 1-10 for how well you feel you did today. 1 being – Meh, I didn’t try, at all and 10 being – I Frickin’ damn well ACED this shit!! (He didn’t use those exact words but I uncensored it for you.) 😉 He also suggests to use this time of self evaluation to tune into yourself and ask: Did I feel connected to it? And then go ahead and rate yourself on that as well.
Share it! Spread the word! Tell your social network or start a blog, share about the change that you are making. This will help you build momentum from from those cheering you on but also help keep you accountable to your word. When you say you are going to do something but you don’t cognitive dissonance (which is defined as the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change) is much stronger & much more uncomfortable because of your awareness of the expectations of others combined with your own. Bottom line do it & share it.
Get a Coach or a Comrade. A coach is a great partner to have when it comes to solely focusing on your goals & how you can achieve them. The right buddy can do wonders too, but ideally it should be someone with a shared goal, a friend or your mate. Have them look at your progress with you and brainstorm ways to improve. A buddy system goes a long way and ties in very much with the Social Accountability piece above.
Above all Brendon encourages: Focus, Will, Discipline, & harnessing your natural Momentum, and I got to say I feel a little twinge of jealousy at just how well this man masters all of those things. But it is doable even for the average recovering “winger” such as myself.
So how’s that feeling for you right now?
Are you Skeptical? or maybe Excited? Have you decided that you are gonna to follow-through with what matters most to you?
Even after writing out this whole blog post I can honestly tell you that the idea of making & sticking to change still freaks the living hell out of me. I’m not a master of change, a guru or ascended master. To tell you the truth I am not huge on commitments either. If I don’t keep my promises to myself I come down hard on myself & I have a real hard time getting back up.
That said, I want to make some major changes in my life. So here goes. Here’s the 3 main areas. Usually I’ve been doing at least one of these things everyday but not all. I’ve decided I would like to start doing things differently in these 3 areas of my life & using Brendon’s suggested approach to do so. Stay tuned!
Keep a food Journal, Eat healthy and Move my body Everyday.
Finish my Coaching Certification & Open a Personal Coaching practice of my own before year’s end.
Meditate 15mins, read 30 mins & Create a blog post from my soul Everyday for 1year.
Do you have a follow-through success story or one that you are going to be starting right away?
Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear about it!